Friday, April 17, 2009

Being Perplexed


They say that there are ample of things which might catch your eye but one must pursue what the heart desires. With this thought in mind one sets some goals and strives to achieve them. Many a times one hits the bulls eye. But at times as the goal is about to be hit, sometimes one gets struck with the worst possibility of not being able to achieve it due to some or the other reason. In such a situation one has to stand with either enough of new ventures or a fresh phase of striving for the current ones
while going through the process of bouncing back to life. And such a process in itself is what can be called as ' being perplexed'.

Your thoughts lead to beliefs which lead to habits which lead to action. This is a commonly known process. Nevertheless, perplexity might cause a disturbance in the chain of thoughts to action.


You might run through myriad of ideas and thoughts. Each might scream and tell you that "Listen, I'm correct." Your mind might have a thousand thoughts about possibilities and ways in which each might take a turn. You might want to choose them all and secure yourself with enough of backups. Shortlisting one out of these could be a tumultuous task in itself. Every possibility starts showing you that way of light. You start judging and weighting each by the pros and cons that it provides. While the pros show you the benefits and green signals, the cons show you the risk taking factors and reasons why perhaps you should rule out this possibility.

While in the commotion of trying to fix on the best possibility the mind goes through a lot of muddled state of affairs. To begin with, you don't understand if, what you had thought as first arising possibility is going to sustain, the way it shows itself to be guaranteeing or will it fail. To avoid the mishap that might be caused by the first possibility you might end up saving a few backups each numbered from one to say ten. And then if you might think that backup one may fail due to so and so reason then I have back up two and so on.

One must zero on his/ her thoughts and backups very perspicuously. Substantially, the backups made need to be strong enough. Most importantly they need to be highly positive and motivated. This could be the best way to come out of perplexity of above kind. Once they are done with, a small tension of addled state sounds to relax.

Now, there are people who don't like keeping backups in life and steadfastly pursue what they wish to achieve. What drives such people is the oneness they have with their ideas and thoughts and having nothing to fall back on they have this immense striving willingness to make it happen at the first shot. Chances that they succeed due to this pursuit are very high as well. But failure due to no or not so strong backups in their case might cause a bit trouble and tribulation; at times even leading to thoughts of whether their decision was a wrong one. But with time and perseverance these people face the resilience of their minds and manage things far better than what they began with.

Ultimately, perplexity is just a state of mind and needs to be tackled with attacking it from what you think is the best way.
Eventually, no matter whether one decides to keep backups or think single minded; what is important is to come out of the discombobulation and achieve your set goal.

Wednesday, April 8, 2009

A Rolling Stone Gathers No Moss.


I would dedicate this article to my only best friend I had in school. Unfortunately, I wasn't hers, so years after our divisions in class changed, the bond of friendship weakened enough to no more remain taut. Then one fine day we happened to again reunite through a social networking site and after suspending our casual meeting for weeks we finally managed to conduct one.

I cherished it. We could expatiate in length about what we did so far in years, how we did it, what happened to our lives and how they have taken turns. The talks seemed ad infinitum.
We both had now become earning members of the society, while the girl came out with a lot of difficult times than what normally one has to go through or to be precise what i went through.

I was deeply moved by the conversations I had with her. Even today, when society has progressed so rapidly, it came as a great surprise to me to know that her conventional family background expected a girl her age to get married and have kids with someone not well qualified but having a government job with a below average salary in bucolic parts of the country. And even if the guy there earned less then what she did here, it din't matter, because after marriage she was destined to stay at home nurturing the kids.

Drifting back to village area looked more viable for her family because either boys in town from her community weren't that well educated, surprisingly, not even as much as she was or the educated ones demanded too much dowry. To me all this sounded ludicrous because I have been brought up in a culture where I was always treated on par with my brother. What I could sense in her case was completely different.


My friend's family completely shunned her for trying to study beyond her bachelors degree. So, withstanding duress by her family, my friend decided to stand all on her own. Starting with taking home tuitions to small time jobs, she gathered some money to begin and complete her fashion designing course; all at the cost of her family's wrath and without anyone's support, neither financial nor moral.

I really salute her indomitable and iconoclastic spirit which shows that 'a rolling stone gathers no moss'. She decided not to surrender to her parents wishes of throwing her into a sea of unknown just because she's a girl and that's what her destiny should be. Today she works as a fashion designer in a decent firm and I could see it in her eyes that she wants to make things much better for her and down the line someday for her daughter when she'll have one.


At the end of the day we decided to stroll to a nearby mall and visit the 'home furnishing division' there. She showed me all that she wanted to buy to decorate her impending house she would buy someday with her own earned money. Seating on the best of the collection of couches there she told me, "Priyanka, bas I'm buying this one, thodese paise kama lu, ek ghar bana lu, fir toh isko hi leke jaungi." I smiled at her and said, "Ya, sure you will."

After so many years I found my one time best friend confident, determined, courageous, hopeful and a fighter by spirit, beautifully designing her destiny by scoffing at her fate.

Friday, April 3, 2009

Chase


Under the bushes and rusty wind,
It left so far, I couldn't find.
I tried to chase it night and day,
In every possible big-small way.
Yet no traces about it were seen,
Grew eyes for its sight very keen.

The fragrance of it was alive in retrospect,
Everything was beautiful till the time it was kept.
Life was so replenished and perfect,
I could never understand then why it had left.

Trying to collect the pieces now broken,
The heart rejoiced some memories open.
With years the memories just went by,
The rhetoric yet remained as 'why'.

As days passed through, it all became faint.
Now on the old walls was quoted a new paint.
Departed far away the gloom,
Flowers again began to bloom.

It got replaced with one worthwhile,
Which also brought in, a package of smile.
Sometimes the change seemed difficult though,
But better was just to let it go.
And there it went under the bushes and wind,
So far, that I just didn't bother to find.